Abuse is not love.
It sounds really fucking obvious, right? Of course abusive behavior isn’t really love. But have you noticed how much abusive behavior is passed off as True Love in the myths, fairy tales and stories we are told?
I love a cheesy romance novel or handsome prince, but I don’t love the abusive themes or toxic masculinity. I don’t love narrow ideals of what women or men must me. I don’t love the shaming faux spirituality of New Age Wank.
We can do better. We can use these stories to learn what abuse looks like so know it when we see it happening in our own lives.